Hey Guys,
I have Once Upon a Time playing in the background, a beverage in hand ( aka Water because it is wayyy to hot for hot chocolate) and my hair is tied back.
It must be time for another Thoughts on a Thursday.
As I have become older, I am convinced that life is a series of balances.
In order to be successful, happy and content you need to make sure each part of your life is balanced.
Exercise vs Relaxing
Learning vs Rest
Work vs Fun
Socialising vs Recharging... This is the one i am at the moment struggling with. Due to my introvert nature and my work ethic i will just work and work and work. In my mind hard work will eventually pay off, and if it hasn't then I've got to work harder. This way of living however is not healthy, it means i miss out on activities and memories with my friends. It means i become known as the 'One who works hard' or 'The Introvert'. Sometimes, for me that can be a compliment, I love and get a massive kick out of people complimenting my work ethic ( as I'm sure many of you do). But I have never been able to get that balance right.
It reminds me of physics lessons where we had to try and find the centre of gravity, in each one depending of the weights the centre was different, for me that was easy to figure out, i did the formula and boom, I knew where best to balance it.
In life though, I fail at bit more. This year i tried a bit more to be social,and in some cases it worked. But now. Its all gone belly up. I feel my friends slipping away from me, I literally haven't seen them in a month.... They are all having adventures and annoying life and i'm not there. i'm not with them.
Fear of Missing out or FOMO is something everyone struggles with. Even the most introverted of introverts have this feeling. But its not FOMO its Loneliness. People try so hard to avoid loneliness they give i different names to trick themselves into believing that's not what they're feeling. Like Voldemort and He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named.
Loneliness is something difficult to deal with, but there is a difference to being LONELY and being ALONE. You can choose.
If you are feeling in dire need of friendship , try and organise something. Just keeping hinting or setting dates or suggesting parties and get togethers. Make dates you know you will be able to meet them easily so it can be a stress free event for everyone.
If you chose to be on your own, make the most of it, stick on a movie, belt out cheesy songs ( complete with embarrassing dance moves), eat your absolutely favourite food.... When I'm alone the whole house stinks of garlic because I can finally eat it without people complaining.
And Lastly, if your friends aren't making time for you, maybe get some other ones. Go outside, meet people hunting for Pokemon, If you're over aged go to a bar and talk at a music night or quiz night.
If your are feeling lonely DO NOT over think it. Don't read 'They Hate me' whenever your friends comment on a Facebook picture without you, or make plans, or go somewhere without you. They don't hate you, but if it is a worry talk to them about it communicate more, friendships are so much better when everyone is one the same page.
Hope this helps,
Love your fellow confused introvert,
LadyoftheRivers x
( Sorry if this was to self-focused...Still trying to find the balance with these!)
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